ABOUT, ADULT, BACHELOR, CHANGES, JOY(S),, Uncategorized

THE JOY(S) OF “BATCHLORHOOD”

 

It’s been about? Three years! Since I have been on my own.

I can get up! Get ready for whatever! Watch cable, drink, sometimes eat in the morning, check email, feed the kids (aka squirrels, blue jays, cardinals, chipmunk, sparrows, and the rest!). IF! “hard up” They will eat? Prunes! No preference at all! To them? “FOOD IS FOOD”

From the “Life & Times” that I went through with the ex! To now!

The conversion was tough! But! I did make it through. I do go through the same things as everyone does. Trying to make ends meet, pay bills, so on.

It’s in-between! That I have to say! I love the most. Get up when I want, eat whatever I want, watch/read whatever I want! AH! The love of being single again.

When I was single! It was hard. Because when I tried to hit on a girl! They wanted nothing to do with me. Now! I get hit up by women of all ages! But! At the time IDNK it!

I know! It’s not much of a life! But I am enjoying it! The peacefulness, quietness, freedom so much more.

Do I have? “1-sided conversations” with me? Yeah! But! Since I do not answer my own questions! I am doing all right!

Through my living room window! I can watch people, what little traffic there is, the changing of the seasons, watch the “kids eat” Bluejays! Are absolute “GREEDY” when it comes to food! They will SCREECH! When other birds even come close to them & their food!

I’ve learned to cut corners. When it comes to utilities! I unplug anything I am not using at that time. It does show on my bill. , I try to buy in bulk quantities when I go shopping.

YES! It’s a frugal life. But it beats when I was!

 

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ADJUSTMENTS, ADULT, ALONE, BACHELOR, DIVORCE, ENJOYMENT, EXPRESSION, FREEDOM, MARRIAGE, MISTAKE, NARSISST, SEPERATION, TRANSGENDER, Uncategorized

THE LIFE & TIMES OF A SEMI-BATCHELOR “THE SEQUEL! “MAYBE?”

So far! I have! Fallen inside my apt.! Had a hip replaced on my right side, broken my right shoulder. Working on my 3rd. year here. Got rid of the bugs that I had when I moved in on my own.

STILL! Married to her! But not for long!

My oldest son. Is still coming over & doing my laundry and having lunch twice a month.

Her! “still!!!!!” the same!

Gender bender! Fmr. my daughter now! An “IT!” still listens to her mom! More the pity!

I find that I am getting hit up! By lovely young women! Y? IDK?

I just started buying new clothes for myself. And on my 3rd. cell phone (long story!).

On the splitz! With my other sister (another long story!).

I find myself going to  “Aldi’s a lot, GFS, Walmart.

On occasion! I do smoke my cigars! No cheapies (plastic holder that come with those “cheap” cigars that young people will buy just to look sophisticated!). or aromatic!

Drink whatever I want!

Buy! whatever I want!

 

When you’re single! You think:”Is this all there is?” Then! You get married! And you start to think:”you know?” “single life was not all that bad after all!” Then separation/divorce comes.

Then! When you’re on your own! YES! My rediscovered freedom is here!

There is no such thing as? “New found freedom!”

You did not lose it! It was there all along!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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SINGLE LIFE VS. MARRIED LIFE

When I was 17. I was single. and footloose & fancy free! But then as time went on. The people I hung around with, got married and faded away.

That left me with? “ME”. I went from night clubs to bars. Always thinking? What would being married life be like?

So I got married! BIG MISTAKE!!!!!!!!!! Wrong person? YES! Marriage? NO!”

As those of you know. About being married to a narcissist Is like! Then something happened along the way! The separation. The boot! My own place.

It’s been 3 yrs. now. After being married! Single life is all that bad. It leaves little room for going out, dating. But after what I went through? It seems like I am in a timewarp. But in the meantime! While waiting for the grim reaper to come! And meeting someone. All I have is this! “TIME!”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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NOW THE SHIT HITS REALITY!

To those of you who have read “The life & times of a semi-Batchelor (I lost track of how many) You kn0w what I went through with her & them.

As my “half-sister” and I came to an end. The shit did hit the fan. But now! As I went to the grocery store. I began to realize that. The things she purposely deprived me of. I can buy!

To some of you, it may not seem like much. But when you have been deprived by the so-called wife. The things y0u did not get because of her. I can get nowadays.

I know that. People have this thought, feeling that: “I can’t afford to buy this/that”. Right of the bat! Seafood! Brings terror and chills to the very heart of anyone!

Does it really?

Ever since I was a mid-teen. I was one who had this philosophy of”If I want it!” “I’ll get it!” “I have the money to buy it!” “I will do so!” Get the idea?

YES! A time & a place to save/invest.

Why? IDK! But I have been one to not know or realize. What I am doing. Perhaps! I am having too much fun. After what I went through.

Am I happy? It has its moments! Not being with them? As I said! It has its moments!

I would love! To meet someone! At the same time. I can wait! But! For how long? UPDATE:

UPDATE: WHAT REALLY HIT ME WAS? I WAS ABLE TO BUY!

SEAFOOD, CANNED MUSHROOMS, CANNED FRUIT!

THE THINGS Those ORDINARY PEOPLE WOULD NOT BUY! JUST FOR THE SAKE OF”SAVING MONEY!”

WE ARE HERE ON THIS EARTH! TO ENJOY OUR LIFE! NOT! SQUANDER IT!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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BEFORE & AFTER DEATH! AKA BEFORE & AFTER MARRIAGE!

When I was single. My life was nothing! Now! I am enjoying my rediscovered life.

The single life was at times fun. But then. Loneliness set in. Because everyone I knew was in the process of getting married. And that left me with? ME!

Then! I did not know it at the time. But I did make the most blunderous mistake in my life. I thought I married someone who loved me as much as I loved her. But that was not the case.

As some of you know. I did write a never ending saga of “MY LIFE & TIMES OF A SEMI-BATCHELOR”. You know what I went through.

LIFE! AFTER DEATH

I am now a bit happier than before. What I find interesting is. As much money! As she did have. She could have spent it. Paying bills and then some. But she refused! You heard it right!

Now! I am doing more with less money. While she has more money and doing less.

With what little, I do have. I find that. Single life does have its ups/downs. As with any and all things in life. I am happy because I can do what I want. Buy anything I want. Etc.

Once you learn about single life. Then marriage. Then life after death aka marriage! You begin to like the single life again.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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I HAD MY 1ST. CIGAR! IN WHO KNOWS HOW LONG?

WHEN I WAS 17! I BOUGHT MY FIRST PKG. OF “CHEAP” CIGARS. MY MOM SEEN ME BUY THEM. BUT SHE DID NOT SAY A THING. UNTIL LATER ON.  THAT DAY! I SMOKED AS THE KIDS IN THE AREA TOLD ME! “YOU SMOKED LIKE A FISH!”

WHILE I WAS MARRIED. “I CONSIDERED MYSELF: “THE LUCKIEST MAN ON THE FACE OF THE EARTH!” FOR BEING ABLE TO SMOKE THEM WHEN AND WHEN I CAN AFFORD THEM.  AS MOST OF YOU KNOW WHY?

AT THE END OF LAST YEAR. I STARTED TO GET THIS WEIRD FEELING ON MY TONGUE. IT WAS LIKE? SOMETHING SORE, TART FEELING. I WENT TO THEY EMERGENCY RM. AND THEY SAID THEY FOUND NOTHING WRONG!

ANYWAY! TODAY! I HAD MY FIRST CIGAR IN MONTHS!

IT’S COMING UP 2 YRS. SINCE THE EX & HER  SLAVE! GAVE ME THE BOOT!

EVEN THOUGH! WITH ALL MY PROBLEMS! (THIS TIME AROUND! THE PROBLEMS ARE THE ONES WE ALL HAVE!) I STILL! HAVE TO SAY THAT! I DO HAVE MY UPS/DOWNS, THE GOOD! THE BAD! AND THE UGLY! AND THE IN-BETWEEN! WHO HAS NOT HAD THEM?

IT’S NOT AS BAD! AS SHE THINKS IT WILL BE FOR ME.

MY 1ST. DRAG OF MY CIGAR! WAS ECSTACY!

TODAY! 06-08-2016! I WENT TO THE DOCTOR (ENT) AND FOUND OUT THAT. THE REASON I MIGHT BE HAVING A PROBLEM WITH MY MOUTH IS. IT COULD BE MY MEDS! MIGHT HAVE SOMETHING TO DO WITH IT.

THE DOC ALSO SAID THAT I NEED TO SEE A DENTIST! BECAUSE!DURING THE DAYS WHEN SMOKELESS TOBACCO WAS INVENTED! I USED IT A LOT! AND BEFORE THE SURGEON GENERAL MADE THE WARNING. NEARLY! ANYONE! WHO’S EVERYONE! USED IT. EVEN ME!

SO! ANYWAYS! AT LEAST! IT WAS NOT ORAL CANCER!!!!!!

WHEN YOU HAVE BEEN MARFRFIED TO A “NARSISST” FOR A WIFE! AND YOU ARE NOW ON YOUR OWN! YOU BEGIN TO CREATE! YOUR VERY OWN “DEPRAVATION RECOVERY ACT!”

I AM DOING MY BEST TO PICK UP! WHERE I/SHE LEFT OF!

I THINK! GRADE SCHOOL PSY 101 SHOULD BE TAUGHT IN SCHOOL!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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THE LIFE AND TIMES OF A SEMI-BATCHELOR!

TO THOSE OF YOU WHO ARE “POLITICALLY CORRECT”. SCREW YOU!

IN THE BEGINNING! IT WAS A HARD CONVERSION. BUT! WITH THE HELP OF MY “HALF-SISTER”. THE CONVERSION WAS FINE.

THE LAST TIME I TALKED TO THE “SOON-TO-BE EX!” SHE STILL SOUNDS LIKE IT’S STILL MY FAULT FOR ANYTHING/EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENED.

QUITE THE CONTRARY! IT’S ALL HERS!

NARCISSIST! CANNOT! WILL NOT! TAKE BLAME OR RESPONSIBILITY FOR ANYTHING IN THEIR SO-CALLED LIFE AT ALL. IF THEY EVER DID?  IT WOULD KNOCK THEM OFF THEIR DIY PEDESTAL.

I WILL LET YOU FIND OUT WHAT THE WORD MEANS.

SHE PRETENDS TO BE SCARED OF ME. ALL FOR THE SAKE OF ATTENTION AND SYMPATHY. SHE WAS ALWAYS LIKE THAT. SHE EVEN! DOES IT WITH OUR GENDER-BENDING DAUGHTER NOW OUR YOUNGEST SON. WHO! I DON’T EVEN THINK OF “IT”! AS MY SON AT ALL! BECAUSE OF WHAT THE EX DID TO IT! “IT’S!” HER SLAVE! IN MORE WAYS THAN ONE!!!!!!

I READ AN ONLINE ARTICLE ABOUT: “DIVORCING A NARCISSIST!” AND! IT’S TRUE!

I AM NOW LIVING ON MY OWN! IT WAS BOTH A BLESSING AND A FAVOUR IN DISGUISE! AT TIMES! IT DOES GET SO VERY LONELY. BUT! I DO MAKE IT.

THANK YOU!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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