BENEIFITS, ENJOYMENT, FRIEND, FRIENDSHIP, GROWING, HAPPINESS, LEARN, LIFE, LIVING, LOVE

Do you feel a little weird because you don’t have a best friend?

Many people feel weird about not having a best friend, but this type of close relationship might not be good in every situation.

Source: Do you feel a little weird because you don’t have a best friend?

After reading the article. I do agree!

Finding a “best friend” is /can be difficult. I have had many friends in the past. Most of them? Not worth knowing!

But! that does not mean. “Giving up!”.

When I was a telemarketer/peddler. There was a law called: “reducing the law of averages!”. It means:”The more no’s you get!. “bring you that much closer to a yes!.

How many yes’s/friends? That’s why it’s called:”reducing the law of averages!”.

We go through life meeting many people/friends. What makes life that much more interesting is? Which one is or can be? My BFF/bae (soulmate)?

Think about this!

The people we meet. Are looking/expecting the same as we do! But! They and us! Either prejudge or expect the other to be that BFF/BAE as well. what happens is? We/they pre-expect too soon! Then! that friendship dissolves as fast as it began!

In general! A relationship does take the time to grow. It cannot be rushed, pushed. If you do? Something might be missed. That could have been (more) real, true, meaningful, honest, lasting.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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$$$$$$$!!!!! MONEY MATTERS, BENEIFITS, DO'S DON'T'S, GROWING, INVESTING, IPO, LEARN, LIFE

What You Must Do Before Investing $1 in the Market

You need a strong stomach and some investment knowledge before diving into the markets. Here’s what you need to know before you jump in.

Source: What You Must Do Before Investing $1 in the Market

I began investing when I was 17 years old. The state of Ohio had a “unification gifts to minors act”. With the help of my mom. I began investing in mutual funds. And that started it all.

I started learning the basics of investing. Went on from there.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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ABUSE, ADJUSTMENTS, ADULT, ALONE, BENEIFITS, LIFE, Uncategorized

&! SHE THOUGHT I WOULD NOT (MAKE IT!) SURVIVE!

On 09/01/2014!

 

The ex (wishful thinking at this point!) thought I would not make it. This is what happens when you are married to an abusive narcissist! They are mostly found in men. Some women as well.

They are mostly found in men. Some women as well. Abusive narcissist makes you think, feel, believe! You cannot do a thing without them. Little did she know! With the help of my “half” sister. I was able to reprogram and convert to the single life again. It was hard! But I made it!

I can! Eat, drink, smoke, get whatever I want! Without her telling me; badlyThat’s too expensive”! “That! Will shoot up your blood sugar”! The list is endless!

No more! Arguments, yelling, screaming, hollering all from out of nowhere! The abusive narcissist will start things and accuse you of anything/everything. They love to blame the spouse for doing this! Doing that! But do not you blame them fo the crap they do/says! They do want to hear of it. Even though they create their own problems and blame you for it.

I know! She has told her brother and sisters how dumb I am. How bad I treated her (when it’s the other way around!). They love to make them look good! While mouthing you behind your back, sometimes in front of you.

I have seen what is called “The family portrait”! She stands out bigger than the capital rotunda! That’s because! When we were expecting kids! And after. She let herself go! That’s why! Even her dad nagged her about losing it. In one ear! Out the other!

Now! I do not have to go through all that!

It does have its moments. Where it does get lonely at times. But! None of her to be had.

Has all this made me bitter? I do not think so!

Although! It has made me even more cautious in finding someone. All because of the “abusive narcissist”!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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ADULT, BENEIFITS, BUMMER!, CLASH, FLEXABILITY, FUTURE, HAPPINESS, LIFE, LIVING, PASSION, PEOPLE, PERSONAL, RELATIONSHIPS, RUN OFF AT THE MOUTH, THOUGHT, Uncategorized

LIVE! & LET LIVE! OR CAN WE?

FROM THE TIME I WAS GROWING UP!

THERE WAS ALWAYS THIS? THING! ABOUT “CONFORM & COMPLY!”. WITH MY PARENTS HAVING BEEN RAISED WITH ABUSE. I ENDED UP BEING PARENTED BY BARE BONE WAYS & MEANS.

I DID THINGS THAT! IF MY PARENTS EVER FOUND OUT? WELL! NEEDLESS TO SAY!

I WAS NOT THE TYPICAL CHILD AS OTHER KIDS WERE. AND! BECAUSE OF IT! I GOT BULLIED BUY THE GUYS.

THIS WAS AT A TIME WHEN. THE KIDS WHAT THEY WERE TOLD. ALL BUT ME! I WAS NOT THE BEST STUDENT! BUT! IN THE “OLD” DAYS. THE SCHOOL SYSTEM WOULD GRADE STUDENTS ON JUST ABOUT ANYTHING/EVERYTHING THAT YOU DID.

EXAMPLE: “IS POLITE & KIND?” I ALWAYS! GOT AN “A” TO “B” ON THAT ONE. EVERYTHING ESLE? ALL “F’S!”

AS TIME WENT ON! I BECAME A LONER! KIDS IN THE AREA DID NOT WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH ME. I HAD CONFRONTATIONS WITH THEM. TO ME? NORMAL! ID DI NOT KNOW WHY. BUT IN MY LATER YRS.

I DID FIND OUT WHY. “I WAS DIFFERENT!”.

LIKE ALL THE OTHER KIDS BUT! THEN AGAIN? “NOT!”. GROWING UP! I DID NOT KNOW THAT THERE WAS SUCH A THING AS “CONFORM & COMPLY! FOLLOW ANYONE! DON’T GO OUTSIDE THE LINES. AND YOU WILL BE FINE.

NOT!

YEAH! I DID RUB A FEW PEOPLE THE WRONG WAY! BUT  HEY! I WAS A KID WITH NO PARENTAL SUPERVISION IF ANY.

BEING DIFFERENT! DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU WILL FIND YOURSELF? ALL BY YOURSELF.

THE POINT I AM TRYING MAKE HERE IS!

EVEN WITH “POLITICAL CORRECTNESS!” YOU CAN “STILL” BE YOURSELF. ALL IT REALLY DOES IS?  PEOPLE TRY TO GETTING PEOPLE TO “CONFORM & COMPLY” TO WHAT OTHERS WANT YOU TO DO/BE!

IF! PEOPLE ONLY KNEW! THE “REAL”TRUE” DEFINITION OF IT?

IT’S JUST THAT! WE HAVE EITHER BEEN TOLD OR TAUGHT TO DO. WHAT ANYONE/EVERYONE THINKS, SAYS, DOES. AND YOU WON’T GO WRONG.

“BULLSHIT!!!!!”

IF YOU DON’T SAY “GOOD-BYE” TO THEW THINGS YOU KNOW! AND “HELLO” TO THE THINGS YOU DON’T! YOU ARE DOING MORE THAN JUST SCREWING YOURSELF! YOU ARE ALSO DEPRIVING YOURSELF AT THE SAMETIME!

DURING MY TIME GROWING UP! YES! I GOT CRITIQUED & CRITICISED FOR NOT RUNNING WITH THE PACK. THINKING THE WAY OTHERS THINK, SAY, DO.

I HAVE MET PEOPLE. WHO DO FIND ME AS “DIFFERENT”.  BUT NOT LIKE THE REST OF THEM.

IT’S ALL A MATTER OF? BEING YOURSELF! AND NOT CONCERNING YOURSELF WITH WHAT YOU WANT TO THINK, SAY, DO IN THIS WORLD.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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ABOUT, ABUSE, ADJUSTMENTS, ALONE, BATCHLOR, BENEIFITS, Uncategorized

ALOME AGAIN! NATURALY! BUT! NOT BY CHOICE!

When i was on my own before I made the most blunderous choice of getting married. I was living on my own. And I did not like it at all. simply because most of my life. I was living with my parents.

Then! I made the choice of getting married. Then all things went downhill from there. Now! because of things that did happen! I have been on my own for a year and a half.

I went from! Being single, footloose, fancy-free! To being downtrodden, mentally beaten,  emotionally drained (aka all from being married!). To happier, laughing, enjoying my found freedom!

to those of you who read my blog of “THE LIFE AND TIMES OF A  SEMI-BATCHELOR”. You know what I went through.

The ex-being what she is? Is still trying to put any and all blame on me. Still trying to make herself the poor, defenseless woman.  Amazing! how some people who suffer from NPD,BPD and then some. Will seek sympathy from anyone, everyone they meet and encounter.

On the other hand, I can! Talk about it like? I was having a conversation with anyone.  The conversion was very hard! But over time. I got over it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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