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WHAT DOES IT TAKE? TO GET OUT OF AN ABUSIVE NARSSISTIC RELATIONSHIP?

 

I spent over 40 years in one! The ex! Nearly had me thinking, believing. I could not survive/live without her. Somehow I knew I could. The one too many things! About abusive narcissists are! They sat one thing but mean the other. They abusively “LIE” to a point it’s like an addiction with then. They lie so perfection to a fault that! Other fellow narcissists do not that the people they meet, talk to are “carbon copies” of them as well. They will believe in what they tell them and think nothing of it!

I had a so-called friend (if? He can be called that!) is a narcissist as well. I told both of them. If they ever got together and hit it off! In time! They would go at each other’s throats! And try killing one another! That is how much both of them have in one another. Both of them laughed at it. Normal!

No matter how much narcissism they have. You cannot tell them they are. Because they think they do not have any of it. They may know the word. But! They do not know the ingredients of it.

As unfortunate things do happen. All those years! She antagonized, harassed, pressured me. To do something. At the same time! She knew that I would not lay a hand on her. Then! Came the time! I could not take it at all!!!!!!

She ran her mouth off one too many times. She got What she came looking and wanted! I had the absolute. No choice! I slapped her! It could have been much worse! Considering the abuse I encountered and taken from her. Even I know that.

That was the one! She found me a place to live. Oddly enough!

To this day! I still wonder why? Did she even bother to reconnect with me and get married? No love at all. She pretended to be in love with me. There was nothing! That can/could be called love at all.

All I could think is this. When she and I got back together. I had a job, money, car, investments.

Her! A box that she called her “hope chest. AKA? “Pisspot poor!” And she did not like it one bit!

It’s very hard for a woman who is in one. To get out of it. For me? She made it seem like it was. The conversion was hard! But! I made it!

That one question will always remain! Why? Do they do it?

 

 

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IRAN, NORTH KOREA WILL THEY LISTEN TO US(A)?

 

Here is where we do not really Know. Who is telling the truth? Or an exaggeration of the truth? Every Administration! Who had to work with these two countries. Should know that restrictions do work. Only to a point! No country! Will listen to what others tell them. This is so very normal.

Because it does interfere with what that country wants, can & does do. Would U.S. want sanctions put on them? I think not! But we ourselves! Do not want any wars either.

If these two countries are doing “self-preservation” or “self-protection” “National security”. Then why not? Perhaps! With inspections from time to time. But both parties have to be open and as one in agreement. But! Here again! What if’s abound!

It still! Ends up!

A “spy Vs, spy! Right out of mad magazine cartoon strip! Only! This is nothing to laugh/joke about. The odds and risks are a way to high to take lightly!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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THIS IS WHERE NARSSISUM MEETS COMPREHENSION! RESULTS? IDK????

After living with one! I have come to be! An “expert” in narcissism!

It all started when? She was a child. She wanted daddy’s attention. But then! Her youngest sister was born with CP.

All of mommy and daddy’s attention went to her sister with CP. She did not like that at all! So! She found that! The only way to getting daddy’s attention was? “Country music”  All!!!!!! She can! The artist, groups, songwriter(s), the label so on.

It was a moment in time! If nothing else. At least she did get her dad’s attention. Then! She got married. She even tried to get me to be just like her dad. Short lived at most.

Since she could not! The rest of the years were like? Being married to satan’s daughter!

As some of you who have read:”The life & times of a semi-Batchelor” You know what I went through. Those posts are gone.

Now! You know the “ROOT” of the problem!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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POLITICAL CORRECTNESS! DON’T YOU THINK WE HAD ENOUGH OF THIS CRAP?

POLITICAL CORRECTNESS HISTORY OF  POLITICAL CORRECTNESS 2

Is it not the time to call it the end of an era with this  “political correctness”?

The term was first used in then communist Russia. It means:”tow the line when you speak about our leader and their administration”. Not! “walk on my eggshells the way “I” want you to!” AKA! “Do as I say not as I do!”

We have to be careful in what we think, say, do. When it comes to other people. But! These are the exact same people that if you did the very something to them? You would get:”HOW DARE YOU!” IT’S THE OTHER WAY AROUND!

In reverse! The “baby boomer” generation and back. Here in the USA! There was no such thing at all! We treated each other the way we would want to be treated. AKA! “common sense!”

If you look at newspapers of the past! You will find that in those days. We meant what we said! And! Said what we meant! Not! “water down” English as it is today! This crap about:”I don’t want to be verbally injured!” “GET OFF THE PILE!”

It is so very unfortunate! That we as a race, nation, the world. That we all! Are followers! The need to belong, accepted, fit in. Is far more important! Then just plain “getting along”.

Our basic human needs/wants. Will always be there!

I know! That’s old (school) fashioned!

IS IT REALLY?

WE ARE ALL WE HAVE!!!!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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NOW THE SHIT HITS REALITY!

To those of you who have read “The life & times of a semi-Batchelor (I lost track of how many) You kn0w what I went through with her & them.

As my “half-sister” and I came to an end. The shit did hit the fan. But now! As I went to the grocery store. I began to realize that. The things she purposely deprived me of. I can buy!

To some of you, it may not seem like much. But when you have been deprived by the so-called wife. The things y0u did not get because of her. I can get nowadays.

I know that. People have this thought, feeling that: “I can’t afford to buy this/that”. Right of the bat! Seafood! Brings terror and chills to the very heart of anyone!

Does it really?

Ever since I was a mid-teen. I was one who had this philosophy of”If I want it!” “I’ll get it!” “I have the money to buy it!” “I will do so!” Get the idea?

YES! A time & a place to save/invest.

Why? IDK! But I have been one to not know or realize. What I am doing. Perhaps! I am having too much fun. After what I went through.

Am I happy? It has its moments! Not being with them? As I said! It has its moments!

I would love! To meet someone! At the same time. I can wait! But! For how long? UPDATE:

UPDATE: WHAT REALLY HIT ME WAS? I WAS ABLE TO BUY!

SEAFOOD, CANNED MUSHROOMS, CANNED FRUIT!

THE THINGS Those ORDINARY PEOPLE WOULD NOT BUY! JUST FOR THE SAKE OF”SAVING MONEY!”

WE ARE HERE ON THIS EARTH! TO ENJOY OUR LIFE! NOT! SQUANDER IT!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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LIVING IN A TIME WHEN THE WORLD WAS FLAT!

As a kid growing up in Cleveland, Ohio USA!

It was a time when the economic playfield was flat. Especially in the inner city. The near west side was all the same. No one had a reason to leave it for the suburbs. All the neighborhood stores shops were in walking distance and all.

With me growing up in that area. IDK? What was going on?  Economically that is. The people in the area were nice to my parents’ dad, sisters me. But! The kids to these parents? Not so nice. I found that out on my first day of school. And afterward.

At the time! I did not pay any attention to what was going on. Until I found out the kids did not like me because all the kids were either spoiled rotten! Or! Followers of whatever the other guys were doing. It made it hard for me to fit in. Even the teachers! Most of them, to the same.

When we moved back to the projects aka “public housing” even though the kids there were bad! They were rather nice. IDK! This was a part of growing up. See! How ill informed I was?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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DID YOUR PARENTS EVER TELL YOU ABOUT YOUR ETHNIC BACKGROUND? HOW TO SPEAK THE LANGUAGE?

When I was growing up. My parents did not bother to tell me about anything! Except! How they were brought up. That was it. They were very tight-lipped.

It’s a shame! We will grow up not knowing who or what we are. The funny thing is! When my mom would talk to her sister. She would talk in the Lithuanian language. To keep me from hearing how bad she would complain about me to her. Dad did not speak German at all.

He did tell me about his parents came to the USA. Illegally. Both were abused growing up.

But! Not knowing! It leaves nothing to pass on.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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