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ABUSIVE NARCSSIST! AKA THE EX!

WHAT IS NARCISSISTIC ABUSE?

NARCISSIST 

 

At the start!

When I met her. IDNK! What narcissism was! I used to call her a “hypocrite” But I was wrong.

It was not until I came across a tweet on twitter from psych central called: 12 signs to spot a narcissist. I read it. And she has the every one of them! I spent from Friday through the weekend to Monday! Researching it.

The interesting thing(s) about them. Is that if say, tell, call them a narcissist! They will deny it! Or you are wrong!

The links! Have the basic information needed to spot them!

One of many things they love to do is!

LIE! The ex-lied so much! It was like an addiction! She told me that! Her dad taught his kids to lie. (Keep in mind! Her dad is from WVA coal mining country. Him and his brothers, friends burned down the one-room schoolhouse.And they all were left with a sixth-grade education! In those days you lived by your wits! So lying was important to exist!)

When I was married to her. She used my name & SSI to make out credit card applications.

She pretended to be in love with me. But! As some of you know. There is a difference between. Going through the motions and saying “I love you”! and actually feeling it! Knowing it! That person does!

The ex did more things wrong than right.

They will come up with so many excuses of why they should sit on their asses! And the husband and kids should do any/all the work around the house.

I found another article about abusive narcissists. That! Is what got me started on this.

The narcissists mind! Is “really” screwed up!

They think nothing! About what comes out of their mouth! I can only describe what comes out of her mouth as? “cosmic” The most outrageous things I ever heard!

There was one time when! The cover plate on the hot water tank was missing. I asked her “what happened to it?” She said: IDK! “perhaps! one of the cats removed it”! I said: You mean? “one of the cats somehow sharpened one of their claws as Philips screwdriver and removed it”? She said: “that’s right”!

Narcissists! Also think thy work harder on the job than you! They make more money than you! They think they are WAY! smarter than you!

Hint! Narcissists! Come much shorter than they think! In actuality! They are no smarter than the next person! But! You cannot tell them that! It would be like? Knocking them off their pedestal! Their self-esteem is way beyond fragile! They do not mind hurting you! But! Do not you hurt them!

They are “one-way” people. They think! Any & all things should go in one direction! They do not like/love themselves at all! Because they do not know how nor anything about it. More than likely! It’s because of the way their parents were raised. This is a fact when it comes to her. Narcissists also think there is nothing wrong with them! They think it the other way around!

I am right! And all the world is wrong! Is the one too many philosophies they have going against them.

They will not! Seek mental help for their problem at all!

In some ways! At times! I do feel so very sorry for her. For the way, she was raised by her father. He did tell me many times. He raised his kids the same way he was raised. Because! The way he was raised. To him, there was nothing wrong. Little does he or his “young’uns know!

 

 

 

 

 

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HERE’S A PEEK INTO MY LIFE!

Ever since my one sister & I split!

I have slowly gotten my life back! But! I do thank her for being there for me. I do apologize! For the things, I said to still!!!!

My day begins with checking the email, news online, checking the bank rates for the highest rate available.

I had to find another bank because! Of a problem with at that time. The problem I had with it. And I did.

I found an online bank that offers “INTEREST” on checking accounts. No min. balances, no maintenance fees!

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From what I went through with the ex! I have to say that! I am getting into it!

My son comes over two times a month. Have lunch, watch GSN, talk does my laundry for me.

Most of the time! I watch tv, the net, go to bed!

The hard part about it is? Trying to forget about the past and move on! I think it’s because. I spent way!!!!!!!! Too long with them!

I am building my life once again. Without them! I held out hope for one too many years! with the ex.

I know! she is so very scared “SHITLESS” to get the divorce papers drawn up. Because of what she said & did to me!

NOW! I have to concentrate! On what I want! Instead of what I don’t want.

The women around here are not too bad at all! Diversity! Being what it is!

“ENJOY! YOUR “FREEDOM”! WHILE YOU CAN!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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THE LIFE & TIMES OF A SEMI-BATCHELOR “THE SEQUEL! “MAYBE?”

So far! I have! Fallen inside my apt.! Had a hip replaced on my right side, broken my right shoulder. Working on my 3rd. year here. Got rid of the bugs that I had when I moved in on my own.

STILL! Married to her! But not for long!

My oldest son. Is still coming over & doing my laundry and having lunch twice a month.

Her! “still!!!!!” the same!

Gender bender! Fmr. my daughter now! An “IT!” still listens to her mom! More the pity!

I find that I am getting hit up! By lovely young women! Y? IDK?

I just started buying new clothes for myself. And on my 3rd. cell phone (long story!).

On the splitz! With my other sister (another long story!).

I find myself going to  “Aldi’s a lot, GFS, Walmart.

On occasion! I do smoke my cigars! No cheapies (plastic holder that come with those “cheap” cigars that young people will buy just to look sophisticated!). or aromatic!

Drink whatever I want!

Buy! whatever I want!

 

When you’re single! You think:”Is this all there is?” Then! You get married! And you start to think:”you know?” “single life was not all that bad after all!” Then separation/divorce comes.

Then! When you’re on your own! YES! My rediscovered freedom is here!

There is no such thing as? “New found freedom!”

You did not lose it! It was there all along!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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NOW! I KNOW HOW MRS. DOUBTFIRE FELT!

It’s been 3 yrs. since the npd/bpd wife! and gender bending son! gave me the boot! And found me an apartment.

The point I’m trying to make is this. It hurt Mrs. Doubtfire (played by the late Robin Willians) When his ex-cut off his time with his kids.

Only! With me. Before! When I was with them. The wife made sure that the kids hated me! You see! she is a full-blown Narcissist! All because! She tried to get me to “conform & comply” to what she wanted me to be as far as she is concerned.

But! When I had hip surgery. My oldest son. He showed his true colors. After that. it became harder to keep from being sad each and every time! He has to leave and go back to the “hell hole” aka home!

Spouses! Do not think, care about their kids or husband at all. Because! they are the Narcissist”Who are the ones who pretend to love, care.

As long as they are not hurt! And others outside of them! Are!

I am at a point in my life where! Should I live to be separate? Or go for the divorce?

The wife! Is the one who drove a huge wedge between her and me, and the kids. and think nothing of it!

As long as it is not them!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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