FRIEND, FRIENDSHIP, GROWING, HAPPINESS

The 13 Essential Traits of Good Friends

These are the keys to maintaining long-term connections.

Source: The 13 Essential Traits of Good Friends

Granted! we did not come into this world. With a manual in tow! When reading the article. There are things that I do have! Then there are things I don’t have!

We all! Can make friends. It’s the deeper, meaningful, emotional side of a friendship that makes our life that much more filling.

The one thing that makes is so hard to find a true friend is “being open with them and us.” I think the reason is that! We all take our “knocks” in the world. After that! It does make it that harder to trust anyone.

As we grow up. We develop our own definition of friendship. It may be right. It may be wrong. But as we go through this world. Little do we know! We re-define that meaning. In each relationship we have.

If we look at the basic need, want. Then! Find that friendship. We can start to be happy.

We will encounter! People who will come close. But not close enough. We know it as “the process of elimination!” We go through it every day. What’s one more?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Do you feel a little weird because you don’t have a best friend?

Many people feel weird about not having a best friend, but this type of close relationship might not be good in every situation.

Source: Do you feel a little weird because you don’t have a best friend?

After reading the article. I do agree!

Finding a “best friend” is /can be difficult. I have had many friends in the past. Most of them? Not worth knowing!

But! that does not mean. “Giving up!”.

When I was a telemarketer/peddler. There was a law called: “reducing the law of averages!”. It means:”The more no’s you get!. “bring you that much closer to a yes!.

How many yes’s/friends? That’s why it’s called:”reducing the law of averages!”.

We go through life meeting many people/friends. What makes life that much more interesting is? Which one is or can be? My BFF/bae (soulmate)?

Think about this!

The people we meet. Are looking/expecting the same as we do! But! They and us! Either prejudge or expect the other to be that BFF/BAE as well. what happens is? We/they pre-expect too soon! Then! that friendship dissolves as fast as it began!

In general! A relationship does take the time to grow. It cannot be rushed, pushed. If you do? Something might be missed. That could have been (more) real, true, meaningful, honest, lasting.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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LIVE! & LET LIVE! OR CAN WE?

FROM THE TIME I WAS GROWING UP!

THERE WAS ALWAYS THIS? THING! ABOUT “CONFORM & COMPLY!”. WITH MY PARENTS HAVING BEEN RAISED WITH ABUSE. I ENDED UP BEING PARENTED BY BARE BONE WAYS & MEANS.

I DID THINGS THAT! IF MY PARENTS EVER FOUND OUT? WELL! NEEDLESS TO SAY!

I WAS NOT THE TYPICAL CHILD AS OTHER KIDS WERE. AND! BECAUSE OF IT! I GOT BULLIED BUY THE GUYS.

THIS WAS AT A TIME WHEN. THE KIDS WHAT THEY WERE TOLD. ALL BUT ME! I WAS NOT THE BEST STUDENT! BUT! IN THE “OLD” DAYS. THE SCHOOL SYSTEM WOULD GRADE STUDENTS ON JUST ABOUT ANYTHING/EVERYTHING THAT YOU DID.

EXAMPLE: “IS POLITE & KIND?” I ALWAYS! GOT AN “A” TO “B” ON THAT ONE. EVERYTHING ESLE? ALL “F’S!”

AS TIME WENT ON! I BECAME A LONER! KIDS IN THE AREA DID NOT WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH ME. I HAD CONFRONTATIONS WITH THEM. TO ME? NORMAL! ID DI NOT KNOW WHY. BUT IN MY LATER YRS.

I DID FIND OUT WHY. “I WAS DIFFERENT!”.

LIKE ALL THE OTHER KIDS BUT! THEN AGAIN? “NOT!”. GROWING UP! I DID NOT KNOW THAT THERE WAS SUCH A THING AS “CONFORM & COMPLY! FOLLOW ANYONE! DON’T GO OUTSIDE THE LINES. AND YOU WILL BE FINE.

NOT!

YEAH! I DID RUB A FEW PEOPLE THE WRONG WAY! BUT  HEY! I WAS A KID WITH NO PARENTAL SUPERVISION IF ANY.

BEING DIFFERENT! DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU WILL FIND YOURSELF? ALL BY YOURSELF.

THE POINT I AM TRYING MAKE HERE IS!

EVEN WITH “POLITICAL CORRECTNESS!” YOU CAN “STILL” BE YOURSELF. ALL IT REALLY DOES IS?  PEOPLE TRY TO GETTING PEOPLE TO “CONFORM & COMPLY” TO WHAT OTHERS WANT YOU TO DO/BE!

IF! PEOPLE ONLY KNEW! THE “REAL”TRUE” DEFINITION OF IT?

IT’S JUST THAT! WE HAVE EITHER BEEN TOLD OR TAUGHT TO DO. WHAT ANYONE/EVERYONE THINKS, SAYS, DOES. AND YOU WON’T GO WRONG.

“BULLSHIT!!!!!”

IF YOU DON’T SAY “GOOD-BYE” TO THEW THINGS YOU KNOW! AND “HELLO” TO THE THINGS YOU DON’T! YOU ARE DOING MORE THAN JUST SCREWING YOURSELF! YOU ARE ALSO DEPRIVING YOURSELF AT THE SAMETIME!

DURING MY TIME GROWING UP! YES! I GOT CRITIQUED & CRITICISED FOR NOT RUNNING WITH THE PACK. THINKING THE WAY OTHERS THINK, SAY, DO.

I HAVE MET PEOPLE. WHO DO FIND ME AS “DIFFERENT”.  BUT NOT LIKE THE REST OF THEM.

IT’S ALL A MATTER OF? BEING YOURSELF! AND NOT CONCERNING YOURSELF WITH WHAT YOU WANT TO THINK, SAY, DO IN THIS WORLD.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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