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AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO BELIEVES IN THIS? PT.1 ?

The reason I put a “?” at the end is that. I may come up with other things.

 

I would like to start out! With what I believe in.

I know! There are guys out there who believe in being the “HEAD” of the relationship! Right from the very beginning. I do not! You may ask why?

I believe that! The woman does know more than perhaps! The man does. But! It also depends on? the upbringing, education, what she has learned as she was growing up.

I believe! In general, relationships. Are two-way street! Sorry guys!!!!!

I know! What my job is to her. Not only to love unconditionally, be there for her, support, honor, pay attention to her, talk to her and for her to talk to me, to uplift her, put a smile on her face, make her laugh, be there in all her ups, downs, and in-betweens, to give her a voice in my world and our relationship, and then some!

For the guys! It all depends on how men are brought up as well. To some guys! I think they encounter more crap then do some women.

There are parents who not understand or comprehend! What we (YES! I am talking about us men & women!) went through. As kids. We do not “carbon copy” onto our kids as well. This! Is just one part of why the world is the shape that it is in!

We as a human race fail to understand is? I would say? Almost from the beginning of time. Our first parents did not know the how to’s of raising kids. So they played it by ear, by the seat of the pants style. Keep in mind! Life and times were much less complicated than it is today.

I have always believed! When we have kids of our own. We should give them a better life than what we had!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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EVER HAD A TEACHER THAT?

 

Either you liked, loved, or? The “eat shit & die” teacher(s)?

The inconsistency! Of the whole school system itself. I am not looking for uniformity.

There are still! Teachers who love! With a passion! Yelling, screaming, hollering to their class. And think nothing of it! As if the kids do not have enough to be concerned about. How do these teachers know? The environment these kids live in? They do! not

The teachers I had? Most were women. Some very lovely. Some? Ugly af! But! My mom told me that! I got along better with male teachers.

From time to time! I would give some of the women teachers flowers from my mom’s flower bed.

There were four women teachers and one male teacher I that I really, truly, hated! That one. I can only say: “if murder was not a crime!” I think we as kids! Encountered teachers that are “NARCISSIST”! If you can recall! Some teachers that somehow picked out a child in the class. And made him/her look like? They cannot do crap!

I remember a Psychical education teacher who taught gym! Like it was “Boot Camp” From seventh grade on. Until I dropped out. He happened to pick me to fuck with! For no reason! A true narcissist if ever.

Another female teacher! She always! Had me staying after school for no reason. She would also! Grab my hair and move my head around. Normally! After she did that. I would put my hair down. One time I did not. I left it up. Went home. My mom asked me:: Who did that to you? I told her. The next day mom and I went to school. And she that teacher not ever to lay a hand on her son. Needless so say! There an exchange of words. And next thing you know! The principal showed up. She said to my mom: “Let’s continue this in my office”! The next day. I got transferred to a new homeroom and new teacher! My new teacher was a real “HOTTIE!”

I do believe! Teachers are good for one thing. Pissing a bitch and commiserating among other teachers. No teacher bothers to take into consideration. The background and home life of their students at all. Back then! Problems were not that many as there is today.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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COMPARING HOW I WAS RAISED! TO HOW I RAISED MY KIDS?

When I was growing up. My parents were abused. My mom? Psychically. My dad? Verbally! My mom somehow stopped the possible cycle. My dad continued the cycle.

When it came time for me and my wife and our kids. Yelling? Who as a parent did not? Hitting? Only two times. How they became well behaved? IDK? My then wife, asked me:”How did we get so well behaved kids?” I said:”I think it’s because we took what we encountered learned from it and did the opposite!”

I think to that! When most kids fuss, cry, throw tantrums. It’s because they think at their young age. Their parents are not paying enough attention to them. We did! Without spoiling then.

Their first report card. Had C’s & D’s. we told then “you can do better!” The next one? “A’s &  B’s! Been that way since then.

As time went on, we learned how they are. Certain things would let us know if there was something wrong. The kids somehow knew what they could do? And what they could not do. So there was no need to use the belt/hand.

We got compliments from restaurant servers!

Why did we not write a book about it? again! IDK!

But! I think it’s the way our parents raised them. Unfortunately! Not all methods or copying what our parents did is clearly! Unacceptable!

All during that time! We did not take the advice of these child doctors. Because it was not needed.

I hope this gives you at least! An idea as to how to raise your kids.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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