BENEIFITS, ENJOYMENT, FRIEND, FRIENDSHIP, GROWING, HAPPINESS, LEARN, LIFE, LIVING, LOVE

Do you feel a little weird because you don’t have a best friend?

Many people feel weird about not having a best friend, but this type of close relationship might not be good in every situation.

Source: Do you feel a little weird because you don’t have a best friend?

After reading the article. I do agree!

Finding a “best friend” is /can be difficult. I have had many friends in the past. Most of them? Not worth knowing!

But! that does not mean. “Giving up!”.

When I was a telemarketer/peddler. There was a law called: “reducing the law of averages!”. It means:”The more no’s you get!. “bring you that much closer to a yes!.

How many yes’s/friends? That’s why it’s called:”reducing the law of averages!”.

We go through life meeting many people/friends. What makes life that much more interesting is? Which one is or can be? My BFF/bae (soulmate)?

Think about this!

The people we meet. Are looking/expecting the same as we do! But! They and us! Either prejudge or expect the other to be that BFF/BAE as well. what happens is? We/they pre-expect too soon! Then! that friendship dissolves as fast as it began!

In general! A relationship does take the time to grow. It cannot be rushed, pushed. If you do? Something might be missed. That could have been (more) real, true, meaningful, honest, lasting.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Standard
ABOUT, BUILD, CONDITIONS, EXPRESSION, FAMILY, GENERATIONS, KIDS,, KIDS, RAISING, UPBRINGING, PARENTS,, LIFE, LIVING, LOVE, PARENTS, RELATIONSHIPS, Uncategorized

AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO BELIEVES IN THIS? PT.1 ?

The reason I put a “?” at the end is that. I may come up with other things.

 

I would like to start out! With what I believe in.

I know! There are guys out there who believe in being the “HEAD” of the relationship! Right from the very beginning. I do not! You may ask why?

I believe that! The woman does know more than perhaps! The man does. But! It also depends on? the upbringing, education, what she has learned as she was growing up.

I believe! In general, relationships. Are two-way street! Sorry guys!!!!!

I know! What my job is to her. Not only to love unconditionally, be there for her, support, honor, pay attention to her, talk to her and for her to talk to me, to uplift her, put a smile on her face, make her laugh, be there in all her ups, downs, and in-betweens, to give her a voice in my world and our relationship, and then some!

For the guys! It all depends on how men are brought up as well. To some guys! I think they encounter more crap then do some women.

There are parents who not understand or comprehend! What we (YES! I am talking about us men & women!) went through. As kids. We do not “carbon copy” onto our kids as well. This! Is just one part of why the world is the shape that it is in!

We as a human race fail to understand is? I would say? Almost from the beginning of time. Our first parents did not know the how to’s of raising kids. So they played it by ear, by the seat of the pants style. Keep in mind! Life and times were much less complicated than it is today.

I have always believed! When we have kids of our own. We should give them a better life than what we had!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Standard
ABOUT, ABUSE, DELINQUENT, LOVE, LOVE, MARRIAGE, REPEAT, NO!, TIME,, MARRIAGE, Uncategorized

HOW? CAN A PERSON WHO HAS NOT BEEN LOVED? REALLY TRULY LOVE SOMEONE?

I was thinking about this. and to those of you who have read my saga of”THE LIFE & TIMES OF AN SEMI-BATCHELOR”. You know where I am coming from on this.

From what she told me. She said she was told to do this. Hug & kiss strangers ( as to who the people her mom & dad had over. aka WWVA way of showing & expressing love to the “other” person).

At the time. I did not think anything at all about it. But! As the marriage went on. I found little to no love at all with(in) her.

I’ve always believed that. When one is in love. You can feel it! Know it!

But what she wanted was, marriage (a way to get her out of her parent’s house!), kids and whatever she could get her hands on!

Those things! She did get her hands on! Either! fell apart, broke because she always bought thing so very cheap!

Just to save even more money! She always! Refused to pay bills in full, on time!

All that time! She went through the motions and no feeling at all.

I even tried to love her. But! she did was “suck it all up!”And nothing in return.

Working on my 3rd. yr. all by myself. It does give em some time to think about why this? Why that? And little to no answers.

She will always be an unsolved crime onto herself!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Standard
ABOUT, ADJUSTMENTS, ADULT, COMMUNICATION(S), IS IT REAL?, LOVE, MARRIAGE, MINDS, MISTAKE, RELATIONSHIPS, Uncategorized

WHY DO MOST RELATIONSHIPS (EVEN MARRIAGE!) FAIL?

I have forty yrs. of experience in relationships/marriage.

All men and women are different! When it comes to these things. Some have this idea of the right girl. Women have that idea of the right guy. Unfortunately! They collide!

I had my idea of the right girl. But! As you know. It was not meant to be. Now! What have I in mind? Is not there.

 

It seems that! guys today. Are more into the play. Than any commitment of any kind/type to anyone. Sorry guys! But! Guys are not sure about anything/everything.They try to come off like they do but! They don’t!

There are women! Who are no better than the guys as well. There are intelligent, smart women. But! Some who only want a guy to take care of them forever. Those are the ones who are dumb as …..you know!

I would prefer a woman who I can talk, share, inform along the why. As for SEX? Of course! But! For me! sex is somewhere in-between (no play/pun intended).

Some men make the mistake of listening to what their friends tell them about women. It usually ends up being wrong. When boys grow up! They do take their cues from their dad. And when they do grow up (misleading I know!). They also listen to what their dads tell them or, they go by what they encounter on how dad treats their mom and carbon copy it.

Cheating! Why? Who knows?

Boredom, tiredness with the same person.  Someone better?  Perhaps! Not always.

Are we making a huge mistake? In our gf/bf? Wife? Only time will tell!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Standard