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WHAT DOES IT TAKE? TO GET OUT OF AN ABUSIVE NARSSISTIC RELATIONSHIP?

 

I spent over 40 years in one! The ex! Nearly had me thinking, believing. I could not survive/live without her. Somehow I knew I could. The one too many things! About abusive narcissists are! They sat one thing but mean the other. They abusively “LIE” to a point it’s like an addiction with then. They lie so perfection to a fault that! Other fellow narcissists do not that the people they meet, talk to are “carbon copies” of them as well. They will believe in what they tell them and think nothing of it!

I had a so-called friend (if? He can be called that!) is a narcissist as well. I told both of them. If they ever got together and hit it off! In time! They would go at each other’s throats! And try killing one another! That is how much both of them have in one another. Both of them laughed at it. Normal!

No matter how much narcissism they have. You cannot tell them they are. Because they think they do not have any of it. They may know the word. But! They do not know the ingredients of it.

As unfortunate things do happen. All those years! She antagonized, harassed, pressured me. To do something. At the same time! She knew that I would not lay a hand on her. Then! Came the time! I could not take it at all!!!!!!

She ran her mouth off one too many times. She got What she came looking and wanted! I had the absolute. No choice! I slapped her! It could have been much worse! Considering the abuse I encountered and taken from her. Even I know that.

That was the one! She found me a place to live. Oddly enough!

To this day! I still wonder why? Did she even bother to reconnect with me and get married? No love at all. She pretended to be in love with me. There was nothing! That can/could be called love at all.

All I could think is this. When she and I got back together. I had a job, money, car, investments.

Her! A box that she called her “hope chest. AKA? “Pisspot poor!” And she did not like it one bit!

It’s very hard for a woman who is in one. To get out of it. For me? She made it seem like it was. The conversion was hard! But! I made it!

That one question will always remain! Why? Do they do it?

 

 

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ABUSIVE NARCSSIST! AKA THE EX!

WHAT IS NARCISSISTIC ABUSE?

NARCISSIST 

 

At the start!

When I met her. IDNK! What narcissism was! I used to call her a “hypocrite” But I was wrong.

It was not until I came across a tweet on twitter from psych central called: 12 signs to spot a narcissist. I read it. And she has the every one of them! I spent from Friday through the weekend to Monday! Researching it.

The interesting thing(s) about them. Is that if say, tell, call them a narcissist! They will deny it! Or you are wrong!

The links! Have the basic information needed to spot them!

One of many things they love to do is!

LIE! The ex-lied so much! It was like an addiction! She told me that! Her dad taught his kids to lie. (Keep in mind! Her dad is from WVA coal mining country. Him and his brothers, friends burned down the one-room schoolhouse.And they all were left with a sixth-grade education! In those days you lived by your wits! So lying was important to exist!)

When I was married to her. She used my name & SSI to make out credit card applications.

She pretended to be in love with me. But! As some of you know. There is a difference between. Going through the motions and saying “I love you”! and actually feeling it! Knowing it! That person does!

The ex did more things wrong than right.

They will come up with so many excuses of why they should sit on their asses! And the husband and kids should do any/all the work around the house.

I found another article about abusive narcissists. That! Is what got me started on this.

The narcissists mind! Is “really” screwed up!

They think nothing! About what comes out of their mouth! I can only describe what comes out of her mouth as? “cosmic” The most outrageous things I ever heard!

There was one time when! The cover plate on the hot water tank was missing. I asked her “what happened to it?” She said: IDK! “perhaps! one of the cats removed it”! I said: You mean? “one of the cats somehow sharpened one of their claws as Philips screwdriver and removed it”? She said: “that’s right”!

Narcissists! Also think thy work harder on the job than you! They make more money than you! They think they are WAY! smarter than you!

Hint! Narcissists! Come much shorter than they think! In actuality! They are no smarter than the next person! But! You cannot tell them that! It would be like? Knocking them off their pedestal! Their self-esteem is way beyond fragile! They do not mind hurting you! But! Do not you hurt them!

They are “one-way” people. They think! Any & all things should go in one direction! They do not like/love themselves at all! Because they do not know how nor anything about it. More than likely! It’s because of the way their parents were raised. This is a fact when it comes to her. Narcissists also think there is nothing wrong with them! They think it the other way around!

I am right! And all the world is wrong! Is the one too many philosophies they have going against them.

They will not! Seek mental help for their problem at all!

In some ways! At times! I do feel so very sorry for her. For the way, she was raised by her father. He did tell me many times. He raised his kids the same way he was raised. Because! The way he was raised. To him, there was nothing wrong. Little does he or his “young’uns know!

 

 

 

 

 

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THIS IS WHERE NARSSISUM MEETS COMPREHENSION! RESULTS? IDK????

After living with one! I have come to be! An “expert” in narcissism!

It all started when? She was a child. She wanted daddy’s attention. But then! Her youngest sister was born with CP.

All of mommy and daddy’s attention went to her sister with CP. She did not like that at all! So! She found that! The only way to getting daddy’s attention was? “Country music”  All!!!!!! She can! The artist, groups, songwriter(s), the label so on.

It was a moment in time! If nothing else. At least she did get her dad’s attention. Then! She got married. She even tried to get me to be just like her dad. Short lived at most.

Since she could not! The rest of the years were like? Being married to satan’s daughter!

As some of you who have read:”The life & times of a semi-Batchelor” You know what I went through. Those posts are gone.

Now! You know the “ROOT” of the problem!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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SINGLE LIFE VS. MARRIED LIFE

When I was 17. I was single. and footloose & fancy free! But then as time went on. The people I hung around with, got married and faded away.

That left me with? “ME”. I went from night clubs to bars. Always thinking? What would being married life be like?

So I got married! BIG MISTAKE!!!!!!!!!! Wrong person? YES! Marriage? NO!”

As those of you know. About being married to a narcissist Is like! Then something happened along the way! The separation. The boot! My own place.

It’s been 3 yrs. now. After being married! Single life is all that bad. It leaves little room for going out, dating. But after what I went through? It seems like I am in a timewarp. But in the meantime! While waiting for the grim reaper to come! And meeting someone. All I have is this! “TIME!”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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I CAN ANYTHING NOW!

Since my “booting” from them!

I have (@ Times!) enjoyed my life. I can do, eat, see who/whatever I want. I told her one time: “it could have been a great relationship!” She reacted as if? I lied to her! Instead of the other way around!

ISDK! What I have to be “thankful” for?

I have not met anyone except for the girl at Walgreen’s! But! She’s spoken for.

Still married! But next year! That will change!

When one gets married! One hopes to make it their first! &! Last! Only it does not always work out that way.

I believe that! After the wedding and so on! then! the reality sets in. What both thought was on the same. Turns out not to be. Then it’s time to go for each others throats! I’ve always told the wife: “if murder was not a crime!”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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