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NOW! I AM NOT SO SURE!

If I want to get married again!

It’s been three years! Since the split! As some of you may know. The ex and I have divorced. During that time. The conversion was hard. Simply because that is what she wanted me to go through, thinking that I would suffer and cannot make it on my own without her. Little does she know!

But during those three years. I have come to enjoy myself a lot! Being able to do things, buy things and so on. That when I was with them! The ex made extremely sure I did not get or do what I wanted. A few months ago! Not only is she a narcissist! But! An abusive narcissist! In “Drag”! The one thing that kinda stops me in my tracks is just that!

We all! Have our own way of thinking, believing what a relationship is. And that is where we divide. Men think they know! Women think they know!

For me! It does take two to make it work!

It’s just that! From what I went through! It may be years! Before I do decide to find someone.

“I’M IN NO HURRY!”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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WHAT DOES IT TAKE? TO GET OUT OF AN ABUSIVE NARSSISTIC RELATIONSHIP?

 

I spent over 40 years in one! The ex! Nearly had me thinking, believing. I could not survive/live without her. Somehow I knew I could. The one too many things! About abusive narcissists are! They sat one thing but mean the other. They abusively “LIE” to a point it’s like an addiction with then. They lie so perfection to a fault that! Other fellow narcissists do not that the people they meet, talk to are “carbon copies” of them as well. They will believe in what they tell them and think nothing of it!

I had a so-called friend (if? He can be called that!) is a narcissist as well. I told both of them. If they ever got together and hit it off! In time! They would go at each other’s throats! And try killing one another! That is how much both of them have in one another. Both of them laughed at it. Normal!

No matter how much narcissism they have. You cannot tell them they are. Because they think they do not have any of it. They may know the word. But! They do not know the ingredients of it.

As unfortunate things do happen. All those years! She antagonized, harassed, pressured me. To do something. At the same time! She knew that I would not lay a hand on her. Then! Came the time! I could not take it at all!!!!!!

She ran her mouth off one too many times. She got What she came looking and wanted! I had the absolute. No choice! I slapped her! It could have been much worse! Considering the abuse I encountered and taken from her. Even I know that.

That was the one! She found me a place to live. Oddly enough!

To this day! I still wonder why? Did she even bother to reconnect with me and get married? No love at all. She pretended to be in love with me. There was nothing! That can/could be called love at all.

All I could think is this. When she and I got back together. I had a job, money, car, investments.

Her! A box that she called her “hope chest. AKA? “Pisspot poor!” And she did not like it one bit!

It’s very hard for a woman who is in one. To get out of it. For me? She made it seem like it was. The conversion was hard! But! I made it!

That one question will always remain! Why? Do they do it?

 

 

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ABUSIVE NARCSSIST! AKA THE EX!

WHAT IS NARCISSISTIC ABUSE?

NARCISSIST 

 

At the start!

When I met her. IDNK! What narcissism was! I used to call her a “hypocrite” But I was wrong.

It was not until I came across a tweet on twitter from psych central called: 12 signs to spot a narcissist. I read it. And she has the every one of them! I spent from Friday through the weekend to Monday! Researching it.

The interesting thing(s) about them. Is that if say, tell, call them a narcissist! They will deny it! Or you are wrong!

The links! Have the basic information needed to spot them!

One of many things they love to do is!

LIE! The ex-lied so much! It was like an addiction! She told me that! Her dad taught his kids to lie. (Keep in mind! Her dad is from WVA coal mining country. Him and his brothers, friends burned down the one-room schoolhouse.And they all were left with a sixth-grade education! In those days you lived by your wits! So lying was important to exist!)

When I was married to her. She used my name & SSI to make out credit card applications.

She pretended to be in love with me. But! As some of you know. There is a difference between. Going through the motions and saying “I love you”! and actually feeling it! Knowing it! That person does!

The ex did more things wrong than right.

They will come up with so many excuses of why they should sit on their asses! And the husband and kids should do any/all the work around the house.

I found another article about abusive narcissists. That! Is what got me started on this.

The narcissists mind! Is “really” screwed up!

They think nothing! About what comes out of their mouth! I can only describe what comes out of her mouth as? “cosmic” The most outrageous things I ever heard!

There was one time when! The cover plate on the hot water tank was missing. I asked her “what happened to it?” She said: IDK! “perhaps! one of the cats removed it”! I said: You mean? “one of the cats somehow sharpened one of their claws as Philips screwdriver and removed it”? She said: “that’s right”!

Narcissists! Also think thy work harder on the job than you! They make more money than you! They think they are WAY! smarter than you!

Hint! Narcissists! Come much shorter than they think! In actuality! They are no smarter than the next person! But! You cannot tell them that! It would be like? Knocking them off their pedestal! Their self-esteem is way beyond fragile! They do not mind hurting you! But! Do not you hurt them!

They are “one-way” people. They think! Any & all things should go in one direction! They do not like/love themselves at all! Because they do not know how nor anything about it. More than likely! It’s because of the way their parents were raised. This is a fact when it comes to her. Narcissists also think there is nothing wrong with them! They think it the other way around!

I am right! And all the world is wrong! Is the one too many philosophies they have going against them.

They will not! Seek mental help for their problem at all!

In some ways! At times! I do feel so very sorry for her. For the way, she was raised by her father. He did tell me many times. He raised his kids the same way he was raised. Because! The way he was raised. To him, there was nothing wrong. Little does he or his “young’uns know!

 

 

 

 

 

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VIEW FROM THE TOP! WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN WOMEN’S CONVERSATION? VS. MENS?

 

Over the years! I have been very lucky to have met many women I have had the great conversations with.

Although I have been told that! There are women who love to “bullshit” the same as the guys do. That is why I said I do consider myself lucky.

But! The thing here is? When women are in a relationship with a man. Why do women get so bent out- of -shape! When a man wants to know something in private with other guys. Then this woman finds out it’s something he should have come to her about?

What if? Men felt the same way when it comes to women and their! Conversations too. You say? “that’s different” How so?

Guys are not! As sure as women are! Then again! Women are not either when it comes to their man!

There are women/men who do not know how to approach their men/women about this/that!

Women want to be that “someone” their men can turn to. There are guys that do not! Because! There are women who are dumb AF! When it comes to certain things.

Sorry! Ladies! But! You know it as I do!

The way! Men &women are raised! Very different! Yet! We do not recognize it.

I think we all! Have to pretend to be someone we are not! Just to get someone in our life.

 

 

 

 

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YES! I DID DECIDE TO GO SOLO! BUT!

There is life! after “near” death. That is being all by myself. Unfortunately! It does have it’s moment, highs, lows, and in-betweens.

After what I went through with her (the ex!). The conversion was hard at first. But I did make it.

Now! Not that I am looking. But I have had a few hit ups by young women. I did nor do I! Know what it takes to find a woman. As well as the how’ to’s. At this point in time. The phrase “you could have knocked me over with a feather” can and does apply.

I think the reason why is! What I had gone through with her. And ho I felt living with them and the conversion afterward, and not wanting a “Command performance”. Just might very well come into play.

Not having anyone to talk, hang with! Can be deafening! But this is as close to paradise as I can get.

Even if I do not find anyone. I think I can live with it!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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