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AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO BELIEVES IN THIS? PT.1 ?

The reason I put a “?” at the end is that. I may come up with other things.

 

I would like to start out! With what I believe in.

I know! There are guys out there who believe in being the “HEAD” of the relationship! Right from the very beginning. I do not! You may ask why?

I believe that! The woman does know more than perhaps! The man does. But! It also depends on? the upbringing, education, what she has learned as she was growing up.

I believe! In general, relationships. Are two-way street! Sorry guys!!!!!

I know! What my job is to her. Not only to love unconditionally, be there for her, support, honor, pay attention to her, talk to her and for her to talk to me, to uplift her, put a smile on her face, make her laugh, be there in all her ups, downs, and in-betweens, to give her a voice in my world and our relationship, and then some!

For the guys! It all depends on how men are brought up as well. To some guys! I think they encounter more crap then do some women.

There are parents who not understand or comprehend! What we (YES! I am talking about us men & women!) went through. As kids. We do not “carbon copy” onto our kids as well. This! Is just one part of why the world is the shape that it is in!

We as a human race fail to understand is? I would say? Almost from the beginning of time. Our first parents did not know the how to’s of raising kids. So they played it by ear, by the seat of the pants style. Keep in mind! Life and times were much less complicated than it is today.

I have always believed! When we have kids of our own. We should give them a better life than what we had!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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WHAT DOES IT TAKE? TO GET OUT OF AN ABUSIVE NARSSISTIC RELATIONSHIP?

 

I spent over 40 years in one! The ex! Nearly had me thinking, believing. I could not survive/live without her. Somehow I knew I could. The one too many things! About abusive narcissists are! They sat one thing but mean the other. They abusively “LIE” to a point it’s like an addiction with then. They lie so perfection to a fault that! Other fellow narcissists do not that the people they meet, talk to are “carbon copies” of them as well. They will believe in what they tell them and think nothing of it!

I had a so-called friend (if? He can be called that!) is a narcissist as well. I told both of them. If they ever got together and hit it off! In time! They would go at each other’s throats! And try killing one another! That is how much both of them have in one another. Both of them laughed at it. Normal!

No matter how much narcissism they have. You cannot tell them they are. Because they think they do not have any of it. They may know the word. But! They do not know the ingredients of it.

As unfortunate things do happen. All those years! She antagonized, harassed, pressured me. To do something. At the same time! She knew that I would not lay a hand on her. Then! Came the time! I could not take it at all!!!!!!

She ran her mouth off one too many times. She got What she came looking and wanted! I had the absolute. No choice! I slapped her! It could have been much worse! Considering the abuse I encountered and taken from her. Even I know that.

That was the one! She found me a place to live. Oddly enough!

To this day! I still wonder why? Did she even bother to reconnect with me and get married? No love at all. She pretended to be in love with me. There was nothing! That can/could be called love at all.

All I could think is this. When she and I got back together. I had a job, money, car, investments.

Her! A box that she called her “hope chest. AKA? “Pisspot poor!” And she did not like it one bit!

It’s very hard for a woman who is in one. To get out of it. For me? She made it seem like it was. The conversion was hard! But! I made it!

That one question will always remain! Why? Do they do it?

 

 

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ABUSIVE NARCSSIST! AKA THE EX!

WHAT IS NARCISSISTIC ABUSE?

NARCISSIST 

 

At the start!

When I met her. IDNK! What narcissism was! I used to call her a “hypocrite” But I was wrong.

It was not until I came across a tweet on twitter from psych central called: 12 signs to spot a narcissist. I read it. And she has the every one of them! I spent from Friday through the weekend to Monday! Researching it.

The interesting thing(s) about them. Is that if say, tell, call them a narcissist! They will deny it! Or you are wrong!

The links! Have the basic information needed to spot them!

One of many things they love to do is!

LIE! The ex-lied so much! It was like an addiction! She told me that! Her dad taught his kids to lie. (Keep in mind! Her dad is from WVA coal mining country. Him and his brothers, friends burned down the one-room schoolhouse.And they all were left with a sixth-grade education! In those days you lived by your wits! So lying was important to exist!)

When I was married to her. She used my name & SSI to make out credit card applications.

She pretended to be in love with me. But! As some of you know. There is a difference between. Going through the motions and saying “I love you”! and actually feeling it! Knowing it! That person does!

The ex did more things wrong than right.

They will come up with so many excuses of why they should sit on their asses! And the husband and kids should do any/all the work around the house.

I found another article about abusive narcissists. That! Is what got me started on this.

The narcissists mind! Is “really” screwed up!

They think nothing! About what comes out of their mouth! I can only describe what comes out of her mouth as? “cosmic” The most outrageous things I ever heard!

There was one time when! The cover plate on the hot water tank was missing. I asked her “what happened to it?” She said: IDK! “perhaps! one of the cats removed it”! I said: You mean? “one of the cats somehow sharpened one of their claws as Philips screwdriver and removed it”? She said: “that’s right”!

Narcissists! Also think thy work harder on the job than you! They make more money than you! They think they are WAY! smarter than you!

Hint! Narcissists! Come much shorter than they think! In actuality! They are no smarter than the next person! But! You cannot tell them that! It would be like? Knocking them off their pedestal! Their self-esteem is way beyond fragile! They do not mind hurting you! But! Do not you hurt them!

They are “one-way” people. They think! Any & all things should go in one direction! They do not like/love themselves at all! Because they do not know how nor anything about it. More than likely! It’s because of the way their parents were raised. This is a fact when it comes to her. Narcissists also think there is nothing wrong with them! They think it the other way around!

I am right! And all the world is wrong! Is the one too many philosophies they have going against them.

They will not! Seek mental help for their problem at all!

In some ways! At times! I do feel so very sorry for her. For the way, she was raised by her father. He did tell me many times. He raised his kids the same way he was raised. Because! The way he was raised. To him, there was nothing wrong. Little does he or his “young’uns know!

 

 

 

 

 

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VIEW FROM THE TOP! WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN WOMEN’S CONVERSATION? VS. MENS?

 

Over the years! I have been very lucky to have met many women I have had the great conversations with.

Although I have been told that! There are women who love to “bullshit” the same as the guys do. That is why I said I do consider myself lucky.

But! The thing here is? When women are in a relationship with a man. Why do women get so bent out- of -shape! When a man wants to know something in private with other guys. Then this woman finds out it’s something he should have come to her about?

What if? Men felt the same way when it comes to women and their! Conversations too. You say? “that’s different” How so?

Guys are not! As sure as women are! Then again! Women are not either when it comes to their man!

There are women/men who do not know how to approach their men/women about this/that!

Women want to be that “someone” their men can turn to. There are guys that do not! Because! There are women who are dumb AF! When it comes to certain things.

Sorry! Ladies! But! You know it as I do!

The way! Men &women are raised! Very different! Yet! We do not recognize it.

I think we all! Have to pretend to be someone we are not! Just to get someone in our life.

 

 

 

 

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ARE YOU SURROUNDED BY? “NARSISST”? I AM!

 

Ever since I found out that my ex! Is a “FULL BLOWN” narcissist! It got me to thinking? Comparing her to me mom. Even my mom was one. From that time on. Either I am or have been attracted to people who are in any amount!

There was a time when. I wanted to move out. I asked mY mom if I could? Did she “EXPLODE”! She said “NO”! From that time on! My mom made sure! The rest of my life was hell! You talk about “PRESSURE”! That only a mom can bring to her only son.

In later years. It was similar to what my mom did to me. It happened when I made the absolute mistake of marrying my ex! All because I did not “CONFORM & COMPLY” to her as she thinks all men have to do.

When I got my very first job on down! I found myself “NARCISSIST” at any, every and all amount(s).

The workers I met and worked with. We are all! “MINDBLOWERS”!

To those of you who even think! You know what Narcism is? Think again!

One can get confused as to which is which? There are people who are either? An ass, hypocrite, narcissist or! People who truly love themselves as we have all heard the cliche’: “LOVE YOURSELF”

It’s hard to love oneself! When do you not know how to?

 

 

 

 

 

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WHAT WOULD I TELL MY 21 YEAR OLD SELF?

Don’t! make the same mistake I made at 22 (married the wrong woman)! Go against mom’s wishes (she was against me moving out). Find a way to get your high school diploma. afterwords! find a skill/trade to get a much better job/career. Get a better looking car. Don’t listen to Glenn (he was the one who broke Margo and I up bc he did not want me to have any girl at all!). Know what it takes to find and get a girl. Be selective! Make sure! she sees and knows where you are coming from at all times. Don’t yell at each other. Make sure she’s good to hot! Looking!

Anywhere you go! You will encounter narcissist! Be careful! You’re not going to like anyone! And anyone will not like you (just the same!). Don’t be so sensitive! Go and stay in the in-between. Buy Dad “his” subscription to Playboy!

Don’t go to D”s house (you will in due time find out why). L will go off the beam. You will lose your job at the print shop.  Be your own person (not someone else’s).

YOU WILL GET OLD!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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WHY DO MOST RELATIONSHIPS (EVEN MARRIAGE!) FAIL?

I have forty yrs. of experience in relationships/marriage.

All men and women are different! When it comes to these things. Some have this idea of the right girl. Women have that idea of the right guy. Unfortunately! They collide!

I had my idea of the right girl. But! As you know. It was not meant to be. Now! What have I in mind? Is not there.

 

It seems that! guys today. Are more into the play. Than any commitment of any kind/type to anyone. Sorry guys! But! Guys are not sure about anything/everything.They try to come off like they do but! They don’t!

There are women! Who are no better than the guys as well. There are intelligent, smart women. But! Some who only want a guy to take care of them forever. Those are the ones who are dumb as …..you know!

I would prefer a woman who I can talk, share, inform along the why. As for SEX? Of course! But! For me! sex is somewhere in-between (no play/pun intended).

Some men make the mistake of listening to what their friends tell them about women. It usually ends up being wrong. When boys grow up! They do take their cues from their dad. And when they do grow up (misleading I know!). They also listen to what their dads tell them or, they go by what they encounter on how dad treats their mom and carbon copy it.

Cheating! Why? Who knows?

Boredom, tiredness with the same person.  Someone better?  Perhaps! Not always.

Are we making a huge mistake? In our gf/bf? Wife? Only time will tell!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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